memoirs from Grandma (1)

May 25 & 26, 2012

So … you spent the night with Grandpa and me last night… your 4-month birthday! What a big girl you are! I'm so proud to be your grandma! We love having you come to visit!

This afternoon while you were napping, I thought it would be a great time to nap as well. But about 15 minutes after I lay down, you squawked. I got up and nukked you. You were so cute. You didn't even look at me… you just searched for your nuk with your little mouth. When I put it in, you turned your head, as always, to bury your face in whatever was closest at the time. You love to snuggle! This time, it was your puppy – your new favorite!

My nap was over, needless to say. So I went downstairs to do a few things before you awakened. When I heard your shriek on the monitor, I thought, "Well, she's definitely had enough sleep – she's ready to get up!" But I still had a couple of things to do before I went up to get you so I left you up there shrieking, cooing, babbling, etc. You were so happy! When I finally did go up, I found you with your face completely under Puppy. He was lying right on top of your face! He was a naughty puppy! But you apparently thought that was the greatest thing ever!!! To you, it was a full-time snuggle buddy!! YAY!

                                                                                        

Later in the day, I put you on your play mat (which Grandpa calls your PlayStation.) You weren't very happy with that because you've just gotten bored with the same old octopus. He used to be your friend but I guess you've decided you're a lot like Grandma and want to make new friends… keep the old ones and make new ones! Because I had to get your bottle ready and Grandpa wasn't around to keep an eye on you, I left you there. I knew you were safe there – unless Sophie and Carina decided you were fair game LOL.

Well, within a minute or two, your complaining had changed to joyful shrieking once again! I couldn't help but wonder, "What now?" When I went to investigate, you had squirmed your little body so much that you were now lying at a 90° angle from the way I had left you. Your little lamby was dangling right in your face and you were happy as a lark!

Later, when I lay you on the play mat, I thought I'd be a little creative and lay you on upside down so you saw Friend Octopus' back instead of his face. You actually thought that was pretty cool! You babbled at the back of his head for a while. I walked out of the room to do something and came back a couple of minutes later to your laughter and joyous vocalizations only to find that you had pulled Mr. Whale off the side of the arch and he was lying right on top of your face! You couldn't have been happier. What would the authorities think if they knew we let you do such things? Apparently, as long as it's fuzzy and it is happy to snuggle, so are you!

I love you, sweet little Eliza. I'm so glad we have this time together.

Grandma S

2 months

I know, I know, I wrote about 2 months yesterday. But that was different. At the beginning of each new month (with the exception of 1 month, because I just missed the boat on that one...) I have taken relatively similar pictures of Eliza. To be able to compare and see the difference month to month :)



At 2 months she was my smiley baby. She would turn up the corners of her mouth for just about anything.



She began sleeping better and becoming more predictable.

She would coo and talk in the morning after waking up. It was one of my favorite sounds in the world.


 
Walking into her room in the morning and being greeted by great big smiles from such a happy baby would absolutely make my day, every day. Even before it began!



Her hair was so fluffy! When she was born in was shorter and seemed to lie flatter. But as the weeks wore on, she pretty consistently sported the fluff with such style how could Glamour magazine not be including Eliza's cockatiel rooster doo in their how to get that look sections?

I would try to lay it flatter at times, but the truth is, I always thought it was absolutely adorable and never wanted it to go away. When it got long enough to start lying flatter I was a bit sad :(




this is her concerned face.
Mom, why are you trying to make me pose on my tummy?



and the shifty eyes? Yes, she has always had some crazy faces!




tiny toes...

Time has flown by since she turned 2 months. She actually turned 7 months yesterday as I'm writing this! I miss my 2 month baby, but each month just gets better and better :)

baby's first baseball game

We had tickets to a Red Wings game months ago when the season had first began, but it rained and we ended up just going this last friday. I prepared to this by making sure she had a tiny Yankees tee that I gave Steve for Christmas... I also made sure she had a baseball nuk. These things are important. They posed for basically the cutest baby and daddy baseball picture ever on opening day for the Yankees right here.



She was about 3 months here, but her first game was on her 7 month birthday!

 

She was busy looking and watching all the people and she seemed to have a great time. You can see her leaning and reaching in the bottom right pic above, she was trying to grab the girl's hair who was sitting in front of us lol.

 

Ya know, just some playin with my toes, the yooge. Oh and playing with Bait.



Cotton candy is basically essential at baseball games. Practically your basic food group. She definitely ate some. I wasn't going to let her, but she kind of grabbed it and got it in her mouth before either of us could stop her. I will get used to it... lol.

At the end there were fireworks. I'm still not sure what she thought about it. I got really nervous thinking we had made a mistake waiting to watch them. I was afraid she would freak out and we really had no way to get away from them. It would have taken so long to leave and get to the car had she had a meltdown so once they started i just covered her ears and we went with it. She seemed completely fascinated and totally terrified at the same time. Her eyes were huge and she would shriek occasionally but she gave NO smiles. Not a one. And her little heart was beating so fast. So, I'm still not sure what she thought!

Eliza and Jacob

My bestie and I found out last May 19th that we were pregnant. It was the most uncanny thing, we never would have thought we would have babies together and we certainly didn't plan it! They were due 12 days apart, but Jacob decided to come early and Eliza came a little late so they are 25 days apart now. Let me just say, those 25 days were pure unadulterated torture. I was so jealous that she had her baby and I didn't!

Anyways, all that to show you some pictures of these two cuties. I mean seriously. They are so freaking cute I can't even handle it. At one point they were rolling around in the grass kissing each other. I'm sure they will love me for disclosing that to the world later on in life ;)



They just think the other is the bees knees. They share toys and like to give each other love pats. Pretty much the cutest thing I have ever seen. Ever.



Who knows, maybe one of these days Alicia and I will finally really be related when our kids get married ;)

month 2 with a baby stinkastoo

Previously I recalled the first month with Eliza and now I am moving onto the second. Same story with this post, most of the content was written awhile back but some added now, so if there are tense discrepancies that is why :)

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The second month became a little more difficult as around 4-5 weeks she contracted RSV. It's a respiratory virus that can be very dangerous to infants. We spent about 3 days battling this virus. Eliza was so uncomfortable all the time, it was hard for her to breathe. So she had a hard time nursing, sleeping, anything. It was so sad and really scary. I gave her a bottle several times as it was easier for her to eat that way. I prayed and prayed that she would still come back to nursing and thankfully once her breathing cleared up, she did.

During this time also, the only way for her to sleep at all was to hold her. She needed a lot of TLC and since it wasn't her habit to need to be held all the time, I knew she was really not feeling well as she just cried and cried if I ever put her down. It became very difficult and even when she had gotten over the virus, she was getting used to being held and I was at a loss. My baby who had been sleeping so well in her crib was all of a sudden very fussy and cried a lot and slept very little. I began becoming desperate to find a solution as I wasn't getting much sleep at all holding her all the time. I decided to go back to the swaddle which I had stopped around 2 weeks and within 5 minutes of wrapping her up, she was knocked out for over an hour. It was a miracle!!! The swaddling continued for several months after that ;)

I thought that Eliza was a super stubborn and strong willed baby because during this time she developed a habit of going absolutely nutso when it was time for her to sleep. She would be obviously tired but would so easily be overstimulated that it was difficult to decipher that fine line of too much and too little. Even in the most calm of circumstances, she would seem to get so riled and I didn't understand. I began reading and reading and discovered that my sweet baby Eliza has what so many babies struggle with, colic.

It was awful. And though, admittedly, it didn't last long, it was a terrible time. I became super high strung, stressed out and extremely overtired. I would hear her wake at night and be absolutely unable to go back to sleep thinking that at any moment the crying would begin. Thankfully, we found a solution to her intestinal discomfort and she was a new baby. This happened around 8 weeks.

I will outline how we learned to deal with her colic and how we would recognize what to do. Since she was on an approximate 3 hour eating schedule, it was fairly easy to determine the source of the problem. Digestion. She would eat, be awake for a short time and then begin to get sleepy. However, this would be approximately 30-45 minutes after she ate, also when the food would be hitting her little intestines. She would then begin to cry and crunch up her little legs towards her tummy. She would swing her arms around and just go crazy. This is why I thought she was stubborn! But the poor little baby just had pain in her digestive system and it was how she dealt with it. We went through a lot of gripe water during these weeks and it seemed to help some. Once I would get her to sleep, usually so much time would have passed calming her down that it was very near to the next time she would need to eat again :/ I would wake her up after 3.5 hours between eating since I didn't want her learning to sleep through the day and not the night. This method paid off when she was night weaned by 14 weeks.



However, the biggest change occurred with the colic when my dr told me to try a method from back in the day. Sometimes they're whack, sometimes they're amazing. And this one my friends, was amazing. I mixed 1oz of dark caro syrup with 7oz water to make 1 8oz bottle. I gave this mixture to her throughout the day (so 1 8oz bottle per day) for 7 days. He said 7-10 but it didn't seem necessary after 7. By day 2 I could see a huge difference. She was actually sleeping. It was nothing short of a miracle in our household. I am so thankful we found something that worked.

As I reread what I wrote about month 2, I realize that it was truly a dark time lol. My recall is mostly the bad memories... which is why as I looked for pictures for this post I couldn't help but be pleasantly surprised that none of my pictures reflect that :) Because the truth is, Eliza is a super happy baby! And she really always has been. She just didn't feel good! Her sweet face and little smiles during that month was pretty much what got us through that rough time. And I realize that we had it easy when it comes to colic. Many babies have it for months and months. I am so thankful that we were able to find something to help her, and in turn, us.

instagram phone dump

If I were to actually dump all the pictures from my phone, it would overwhelm us all. I also realize that a lot of the pictures I take with my phone make it on either here or facebook at some point as well. So there would be a lot of dupes. However, the ones I actually put on instagram I think are pretty cool. So that is what I will try and dump sometimes.

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here we have some homemade lemonade from my brother Dan. We went to the public market and walked away with zucchini, squash, lemons and a lot of flowers.



Sunday we went to a friends' house to help them out with some projects going on... like the floor under their toilet rotting out (see next pic down) and while there decided to make s'mores on the stove. Yes, yes we did.

 

this is the hole.

 

Turns out Eliza loves pickles. Specifically the pickles Grandma S made this year. They are dee-wish-us! and apparently she thinks it's no big deal. why shouldn't 6 month olds like pickles?



Last week we had so much fun with Uncle Dan at the market, we decided to go again today. The morning nap was foregone and a stroller nap replaced it.

diapers

It may seem silly or weird to some, but around here we cloth diaper.

I absolutely love them. The other day I was trying to remember a time when I thought cloth diapering was ludicrous... and I couldn't.

Maybe it's because cloth diapering has become so easy now or that there are so many bonuses to it. The older methods of pre-fold diapers and covers still exist and are actually quite popular, but they have been made easier with the invention of snaps and velcro. Personally, I've never used a pre-fold. I'm not opposed to it, but I've not had the need.

Since I knew before I even got pregnant that I wanted to cloth diaper, when I registered for my baby showers I also registered for the cloth diapers. My goal was to have 15 Bum Genius 4.0 diapers before she was born. I figured that she would not fit in them for a month or two, but I was wrong about that. She fit into them by 2 weeks and by 3 weeks we were officially switched over from disposables to cloth.

(She was 5 weeks here and the one size BG was fitted at the smallest size for her legs and there were 1 snap showing at the waist. Her legs chunked up really quickly which is why the OS diapers worked for her so soon. A lot of babies do not fit OS diapers until 8-10 weeks, so there are also newborn size cloth diapers available. They are just about the cutest things ever ;)

When Eliza was born, I had exactly 15 diapers. All gifts. So, just to possibly blow your mind a little, with the exception of the 3 cloth diapers I have purchased since the original 15, I have spent a grand total of approximately $30 on diapers since the day she was born.That, if nothing else should be reason enough IMO. However, I do realize not all people are as fortunate to receive so many as gifts... because it seems to me a lot of new moms don't decide to CD until after their little ones are born.

At any rate, moving along, money savings wasn't the only reason I decided cloth diapering would be better for us. I didn't like the idea of the chemicals and chlorine that are in disposable diapers against the baby's skin all the time. Sitting in your own pee and poo is enough without adding all that. Also, I have found, that my BG's hold the poop in WAY better than any disposable I have used! There was a little over a week I used disposables while I was treating a yeast infection (I later found out I never needed to break away from cloth for that and when I had a recurrence later on I didn't switch and she cleared up just fine). Anyways, while I wasn't using cloth, I had to change her outfit multiple times a day since she would poop right out of almost every one! And yes, I was using the right size and they were on correctly. I have had 1 blowout with the BG's. They are the BOMB!

My other, absolutely most important reason for cloth diapering is that they are just so.darn.cute. Yes, they really are.

As far as extra laundry, when I first started using the cloth at 3 weeks, I put a load in every night. It was really no big deal as I was usually putting at least something else in as well. With the 15 diapers and a load every day during newborn days we did just fine. However, now I have 22 diapers and I do a load about once every 3-4 days. We go through approximately 5-6 diapers a day. And during the yuckier weather when I had to throw the inserts in the dryer, so as not to be wasting energy on like 8 liners, I would put another whole load of laundry in the dryer with them. See? You probably already do all the work it would take to cloth diaper and you don't even know it ;)

numbers

Today

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5 loads of laundry
2 loaves and 2 dozen zucchini muffins
3 naps (not for me)
1 phone reboot
2 dead batteries in my "goto" toy
2 changes of clothes because food is just that yummy
1 free shutterfly book
2 poopy diapers
too many hugs and kisses to count
3 zucchini muffins in my tummy

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the nursery

Eliza's nursery went through a lot of phases in my mind before it finally settled into what it ultimately became. And the truth is that I never actually really knew what it would look like until it was done. Isn't that how it is though? :)

My original ideas were to make a more vintage pink, baby girl, lace and damask type of nursery. However, if anyone knows me, you would know I am kind of the opposite of all those things. I love all of them, but when it boils down to my actual style, it's anything but that ;) I had the hardest time picking out fabric for the crib because I had these different ideas in my head of what I thought I wanted.

Ultimately, after going to the store several times and just not being able to settle on anything I thought to myself why don't I just pick what catches my eye and what I really am drawn to. So I did just that. And I couldn't be happier. Once I came to this decision, it literally took me about 10 minutes to find the right fabric :) It was meant to be!

Above all, beyond the little details of the decorating, I wanted the room to be light and airy. Originally in this room there had been a lighter multi colored berber carpet. We removed a lot of the carpeting from the house to reveal beautiful hardwood floors that needed to be redone. That was a huge project that we were able to finish in December.

Because the floors were a dark stain, I wanted the walls to be lighter, but not white. After several attempts at the right beige, we finally found one that didn't look too pink or purple. I wanted the color to remain neutral as we have only two bedrooms in our house and when a second little bebe comes along they will be sharing a room. So if it is a boy, I didn't want him to be inhabiting a pink room and I wanted to get as much painting out of the way now as possible ;) I am super happy with how it turned out, the color is beautiful and totally neutral. It will be so easy to change up the decorating scheme.

The dresser is the first thing we completed for the room. I got the dresser from a friend who was throwing it out. I could tell it was in fantastic shape, but it was really dirty and was in serious need of refinishing. So I asked her if I could have it and we brought it home to sand and paint. We replaced the handles (which btw was the most expensive part at $36) and we had a brand new white dresser. I still love it. It is so much better than anything I could have bought, especially for that price.

Another thing I knew I wanted from the beginning was a white crib that did not have a headboard on one side. One night Steve and i were talking about which crib we would get (it was before we had really even looked at all) and I said I wanted a white crib that the 2 sides were the same and the 2 ends were the same. So he began a search on amazon for such a crib and came up with something like this. hehehe :) it kinda looked like an orphanage crib to me! But anyways I found the perfect one, and it was a really reasonable cost too. It's the Graco Sarah convertible crib. I didn't really care too much about the convertible aspect of it, but it might be nice in a few years when we're done using a crib :) *sniff sniff* that will be a sad day

The E above the crib was something that took me quite a while to figure out how to do. I had wanted to put just the one initial up there but didn't know how to do it. I ended up using the same fabric from the crib and came up with this. I was really happy with it in the end.

I searched and searched for a mobile that was cute and matched her nursery but couldn't find anything... let alone a reasonable price. I was pretty much just going to go without because there aren't any rules after all that you have to have a mobile or anything. But my friend Carrie had the perfect mobile that she let me borrow and we used it for several months! It's now back at Carrie's house with their new baby William :)

I had been searching for a deal on a cube shelf like this but every time it would be on sale or something I would just think nah, I can wait. I'll get it next time or whatever. Anyways, it didn't change the fact that I still wanted shelves, I just wasn't happy with those. Then, at Thanksgiving time we went to Maryland to spend the holiday with family down there and lo and behold Ikea had a black friday sale (but the sale was actually on sunday, they had different sales friday, saturday and sunday) on their cube shelving units. Normally $40 and they were on sale for $20. Ridiculous!!! We bought 4 of them. Two brown/black and two white. The two darker wood ones are downstairs in the living room... and the other day I found the perfect zebra print baskets to put in them! :) Now I need to find some for these white shelves...

Before Eliza was born, I had this idea of how I wanted pictures all around the room at about eye level. Imagine white square frames at the same height all the way around, kind of like a border. However, I couldn't find that kind of frame for any less than $15 and wanting to buy about 10 of them just wasn't happening!

So I just held off but did decide to get these plain white accent shelves from Christmas Tree store. I decided having these would be perfect because then I could mix and match and move things around whenever I wanted. I could change the whole look and feel just by rearranging or changing what was on them.

Then, after Eliza was born, I found these frames at Christmas Tree store as well and they were just perfect for the room so I bought them right away and put her newborn pictures in them :)

The Willow Tree figurine in the above picture was given to me when Eliza was born from Steve. It's so perfect and absolutely precious. Those newborn days are a time in my life I will try hard not to ever forget because they were so short and so so special. The one in the picture two above was a Christmas gift from my mom and dad. Absolutely perfect :)

All of Eliza's friends waited patiently on the shelves for her arrival :) She plays with all of them now and they are all about the house, but they stayed put so nicely for quite awhile :)

This bird was another Christmas Tree find. I had to dig to find one that wasn't demolished, but it was a perfect accent. Her crib set has birds in it and I love how sweet and airy the birds are in her room.

These dried rose buds were from a bouquet of flowers after Eliza was born :)

And these flowers on the left were bought just a couple days before she was born when my mom and I went to hobby lobby so that I could walk around and try to get her out!

The butterfly kiss plaque was a gift from my aunt and just so cute. "With a butterfly kiss and a ladybug hug sleep tight little, like a bug in a rug." Adorable ;)

This baby quilt was a gift from a sweet friend who I call Aunt Mary. We met her during our summer vacations in Maine as a kid and she has remembered me all these years. She made me a beautiful quilt for my wedding and then one for Eliza :)

The white afghan quilt in the lower picture is so extremely special to me. My Grandma made it for me years ago well before I was married or anything. She made it for my first baby and gave it to my Mom to save for me. She has since passed away, so it's just so unbelievably special to have this from her. It was like she was here all along... since I truly always thought she would be around to see me have a baby.

This kangaroo was one of the decorations at our shower and she sits on top of the white shelves. She was jumping off the shelf pretty regularly until I had a talk with her and let her know that it was really unacceptable and that she was setting a bad example for the baby. She has been so good since then and not done too much jumping around ;)

Also on the lower left picture, in the middle is Lamb Chop. It was her first favorite toy. I remember her being around 1 month or even a little younger and just staring at her with fascination. She would give her first teeny tiny smiles to Lamb Chop and they are still great friends :)

Steve's family has an affinity for bears that I have grown to love over these past couple years. They all just love their bears! So we knew from the beginning that we had to get Eliza a very special bear, since we also knew there would be many bears coming her way ;)

So at Thanksgiving time we followed through on our plan to go to Build-A-Bear and get her her very own special bear. We named her Coconut and put 2 hearts inside of her. One from Mommy and one from Daddy :)

Getting to decorate her nursery was so much fun for me! I loved being able to pick everything out and working on it until it was just the way I wanted it :) And I am looking forward to when Eliza is old enough to pick out her favorite things and we can make a room that is all her own again!

the first month

Most of the content in this post was written a couple of months ago right around the time Eliza turned 3 months. Hence the mixed up tense usage :) Also, each photo is captioned underneath and not necessarily related to the rest of the post!

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(I put her here and took this picture to see just how small she was! So teeny tiny! Can't believe how short of a time that was)
These first 3 months with Eliza have been all I ever wanted, and a lot I didn't expect. Each month has come with changes and challenges. It has been hard for me to reflect on a regular basis about how I've felt and how things have gone because it seems to me that it almost takes a little distance from each stage to see things clearly... at least when it comes to newborns ;)


(one of my favorite pictures... how I loved that feeling of her snuggled up under my chin like that)

The first month, I was in rough shape. I didn't even realize how rough! Well, by the end of it, I was feeling significantly better. But there was a lot more to recovering from birth than I prepared myself for. I guess I thought once the baby was out, everything was normal again. Oh no. I was a hot mess!


(a teeny tiny nap for a teeny tiny stink-a-stoo!)

Immediately after giving birth to Eliza, I was sapped. Completely and totally. That's what 45 hours with no sleep plus having a baby in there will do to you. The nurse tried to get me up to go to the bathroom a couple hours after she was born, but I couldn't do it. I remember trying so hard, but just sitting up made the room begin to cave in around me. I ultimately passed out and we decided to try again later.


(this picture makes me feel so snuggly. so many snuggly days we had :) I wouldn't trade them for the world)

Not long after that, Eliza was crying and crying. Steve had gone home to get an air mattress to sleep on and Mom R was staying in the room with me. She was holding Eliza and told me she thought she was probably hungry. I remember thinking, "I'll feed her," but basically had zero capacity to do so. I laid on my side and tried to nurse her because when I raised the bed to sit up I passed out again. I couldn't even hold her and kept falling in and out of sleep pretty much involuntarily. Mom held Eliza to me and she sucked away and was happy. I barely remember it...


(the hat she is wearing is the one they gave her in the hospital nursery. it started out being rolled up once, then within a week or so it had to be rolled down and then within maybe 3 weeks it just didn't fit her at all anymore)

The next morning, the nurse wanted me to go to the bathroom... since I hadn't been since actually giving birth. And I had been drinking quite a bit. It's amazing how much my bladder can hold when there isn't a baby sitting on it! It took two nurses to hold me on each side so that I wouldn't fall over. I think the biggest part of my problem was that I was dehydrated and hadn't eaten enough... since I hadn't eaten almost anything while in labor.


(the band aid on my finger is because it was sooooo dry in the house because of winter and all the excessive hand washing that occurred my skin was actually cracking and bleeding there, crazy!)
I remember thinking that I needed to take a shower or a bath that day or they were going to think I wasn't well enough to go home the next day. HA! So that afternoon with a lot of help from my mom I was able to take a bath. I was really glad that discharging me wasn't an issue, I had this fear that it would be for some reason.


(Eliza and her Daddy have had a specialness between them since the very beginning :)
Looking back, I don't even remember what Eliza was doing those first couple days! Probably sleeping :) I don't remember feeding her at any kind of regular intervals. In fact, I hardly remember even feeding her. I know I must have though. She went to the nursery at night and they did bring her to me every 4 hours. I would wake up about 5 minutes before the nurse came in with her :) One of the times I was feeding her, she was all done and I just kept outlining her face and her nose and mouth. Eventually she woke up, but went right back to sleep ;)


(Grandma S and Eliza taking a snoozer... while I was too :)

She had a very raspy cry that kind of cracked the first week probably. It didn't last very long. Though, when she was about 10 weeks I heard it again. Though it was a little more grown up version ;)


(I feel like this picture is a good representation of how things are in the beginning... sleepy. haha)

From day 1 Eliza was very strong. I knew she would be fiesty since when she was in my tummy she was all over the place. At night I would get ready for bed and lay there waiting for Steve to come in. She was totally calm and still until the lights would go out and then she would start rolling around! What a silly girl :) It didn't even make sense since often I would have the covers over my belly so I don't think she could see the change in light. There was a photographer that came in while we were in the hospital to take her pictures and she put Eliza on the bed on her tummy. We looked over and Eliza was doing push ups on the bed! I could hardly believe how strong she was at so little!


(it's like a sleep mask for babies, just pull the hat down over their eyes ;)

The first month consisted of a lot of nursing, napping, cuddling and just trying to figure each other out :) Eliza was pretty consistent eating every 3 hours from about 2 weeks on. Before that she was working her way into a 1.5 hour eating schedule ;) we had to fix that! She was a willing participant thankfully. We also saw some first tiny smiles during that first month. The first one was she was about 2 weeks old. I had no idea babies could smile so young! By the time she was 5 weeks smiles were rampant :)






(Grandma S actually taught Eliza how to power nap. Sometimes that comes in handy, sometimes it doesn't... but this is the power nap chair lol)